As a rule, we’re taught to avoid feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable at all costs because it’s seen as a weakness and a road to nowhere. But, like most things you’re taught, it’s actually the opposite. Seeking vulnerability and uncomfortableness is where all massive growth happens. Watch this video for more clarification:
When you have a set-back in your life you probably attach negative meaning to it and then spend a lot of time beating yourself up over it. STOP! There’s something else you can do that will actually use your set-backs as launching pads for next level success…and and even higher level than you were originally hoping to achieve. Start thinking of set-backs as the pulling back of a giant slingshot that will launch you further than you ever imagined and you’ll be too busy planning your future endeavors to get caught up in downward spiral into depression.
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When you’re transforming your life it helps to hear from other people who are on the same path and having success. Hearing their stories can inspire you to realize what’s possible, help you push through your resistance and realize that it’ll all be worth it. I’ve gathered three such individuals that should provide you with a ton of evidence for why you can change your life NOW!
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AARON’S STORY BEFORE:
Miserable kid
Extremely shy
Socially anxious
Made whole life only about finding the perfect woman
Rock bottom
AARON’S LIMITING BELIEFS:
Self-doubt
Lack of self-confidence
Not worthy
Couldn’t talk to people (men or women)
Thought he had to be popular on Facebook
“Another thing was my purpose, I was lost, didn’t know what I wanted to do or how to do it. I didn’t have a purpose for my life so I was meandering about, going from thing to thing.”
“I would give but unconsciously I was trying to get.”
AARON’S NEXT LEVEL TURNING POINTS:
Through doing coaching and inner work broke through attachment to giving.
Seeing the bigger picture allowed for him to let go
Realized how good it actually felt to give to someone and not want anything in return,
On giving to give: “It felt amazing.”
Still has almost the same number of Facebook friends AND still made all these high-level connections in his city
Asked charity organizers if they needed any help and was offered to become a social director
“When you’re out there giving, nobody else is just doing it…people just love it and they can’t get enough of it.”
Learned by trial and error, tested the inner work by the outer work
“You have to do the inner and outer work, BOTH, that’s extremely important. The inner work and outer work go hand in hand, no question.”
Accountability and having a coach
Communication with everyone around him, including family, transformed
By focusing on giving and purpose, it cleared up his mind and mental focus
By being vulnerable, he let himself go and let his natural personality shine through
AARON’S #1 TRANSFORMATIONAL TIP:
Power of Being Grateful. Taking deep breathes and thinking how grateful “I am for everything that I have”. Realizing your own mortality and respecting the moment you have at present. What’s your legacy going to be? How are you going to choose to live in this moment? How are you going to have an impact on the people’s lives around you? Be thankful for all the opportunities you have to impact other people’s lives.
MICHAEL’S STORY BEFORE:
Not really having a purpose
Focused on getting
Felt there had to be something more in life
MICHAEL’S LIMITING BELIEFS:
Had to have a certain type of car, money, house
Attached to false limits of needing money first
Thought he needed all that to live an extraordinary lifestyle
MICHAEL’S NEXT LEVEL TURNING POINTS:
“After coaching, my life had a purpose which was giving.”
“I had a lot more mental clarity because when you’re giving there’s an infinite amount of that, you can continue to give for the rest of your life.”
“There isn’t anything you have to do outside of giving and then everything will manifest itself from there.”
Realized he could have the dream lifestyle just by giving and being “The Inspirator”
“This was the key for me, knowing that all you needed was you and that you can have anything that you really want then everything else will be presented to you.”
Had no intention of getting anything from giving
Started doing things differently
Doing something small or big, the feeling is the same
Doing the inner work with the outer work enabled him to manifest faster
“You cannot have one without the other. The inner work has to be coupled with the outer work. You have to get feedback to know what you’re manifesting from your inner work. You don’t know what to tweak.”
Through giving to give was able to accept others for who they were and realize more of who he is and his purpose
Until he hosted his first event, didn’t exactly know how to connect with people and connect them together
Throwing the first event forced him to bring everything together
Sees everything as a possibility now
MICHAEL’S #1 TRANSFORMATIONAL TIP:
“How’s Everything?“ Be inspiring by asking people this. Give good energy. Give good vibrations to people. If you don’t feel you have anything to give, now you know what you do have to give. Alot of people are walking around with their own problems and challenges, all they need is someone to ask these 2 words so that they can release their own attachments. What can happen as a result of this is amazing.
RO’S STORY BEFORE:
Stuck
Saw other people having fun, wished he could
Wanted to go out but was just afraid and didn’t think he knew why
Angry
Depressed
Felt like he needed something else, like there was something he didn’t have
RO’S LIMITING BELIEFS:
“Man, what wasn’t a limiting belief for me?!”
Needed to look better
Wished he was taller
Wished to be a smooth talker
Thought he didn’t have it
Always giving in order to get
“Limiting beliefs, they all add up…especially when you don’t let it all go and it just makes everything worse.”
RO’S NEXT LEVEL TURNING POINTS:
Starting enjoying things again
Realized it was all inside him, he already had it
Liberated him to give to give without waiting for something to come his way
“You already have everything, now you’re just sharing your happiness with someone else.”
“What’s more powerful than being in a position where you’re allowing yourself to be carefree about receiving?”
Stopped thinking, breathed and let his thoughts go in the moment
Visualizing what he could do over and over
“When I can help enrich so many other people’s lives, I don’t want to limit myself…or take away from the potential of an interaction with someone because I’m only focusing on dating.”
“Having the chance to go out and give whenever possible is a lot more powerful than dating by itself.”
Giving and inspiring people made such strong impressions on people that he didn’t have to go out to the same places often
Enjoying liberates you
Sees unlimited possibilities
RO’S #1 TRANSFORMATIONAL TIP:
Feeling The Inner Work Exercise. Option 1 – find somewhere quiet where you can close your eyes and visualize. Option 2 – better yet get in front of a mirror, spring up onto your feet and start saying positive things about who you are and what your life looks like with as much energy and passion as you can. 2-5 minutes. Do it often and you will feel great all the time. The energy you project will transform you and all the people you come into contact with will feel it. As a bonus, do it before you go out. Feel the energy of the inner work.
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How about that? Are you transformed yet? Leave some comments below. Start a discussion, you can inspire others to get involved starting now…
Are you obsessed with the opposite sex? Is every decision you make for everything you do and everywhere you go made with achieving your goal in mind? If your answer is yes then your obsession may be the #1 reason that you’re not ending up with what you want. Seriously! Why? Listen to this podcast for the answers…
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QUOTED:
“Focusing all your energy on this one area of your life to the detriment of EVERYTHING else, in fact, its to the point where I think everyone is going through the motions in every other area of their life and just to get to that point [having the one].”
“There are ways to create anything you want with the opposite sex as a byproduct and then you can have extraordinary things in ALL areas of your life.”
“Building an extraordinary life is like you being the hub and every other thing coming out of that are spokes… well a wheel doesn’t work if it just has one spoke…it collapses completely.”
“People are running around with one spoke connected to a hub, no wonder why everything is going off track and all these problems are created around that.”
“You’re being setup to be depressed…setup to be powerless and not in control of your life [by obsessing over the opposite sex which is just one area of your life] and thats holding you back.”
“Its about everything else too and there’s a carryover effect into every area of your life… its all connected.”
“You’re treating the byproduct like the main thing, what you’ve been told is the hub is not the hub.”
“Trying to get or trying to be something you’re not is EXHAUSTING.”
NEXT LEVEL TAKEAWAYS:
Change the reason why you go out to be about more than “looking for the one”
That point may never come
Create a lifestyle, an extraordinary life
Great life sets up the space to have a great relationship and attract a great person to begin with
Live a complete life
Put a 100% into building an extraordinary life rather than putting a 100% into 1 person and the success of your life will be 1000%, with EVERYTHING, not just maybe with dating and relationships
Focusing on building a great lifestyle attracts better people to you, eliminates drama
This is the easiest & fastest path to have success with the opposite sex
Other spokes: relationships with your family, career, starting a new business, keeping healthy, spirituality, traveling, exploring the world, creating wealth, philanthropy, sharing, giving
Be in the habit of being inspiring, that’s effortless
A great lifestyle creates all the byproducts you want effortlessly
Play big by being the hub and putting 100% into many spokes
Try on this new way as an experiment for 21 days, you will see the evidence
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How has obsessing over the opposite sex held you back? How small has life been by focusing on only one spoke? Tell us in leaving a comment below.
You might have achieved a certain level of success in your life but often wonder what the next level might be like. Does it just take more of what you did to reach your current level? Or does it take something else? One of the biggest keys to moving to the next level of success requires being unattached to your current level of success. In other words, you have to be open to new ways of doing things and you have to embrace change with open arms and make quick decisions and keep moving. You have to LET GO!
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What’s your current level of success and whats the next level for you? Leave a comment below and let me know, its helps us help you go to that Next Level of success.